Have men been abusive towards women in history? Yes. Has this often become a cultural rule of thumb? Of course. However, theories about ‘the patriarchy’ and ‘rape culture’ demonise men by painting in dangerously broad strokes.
Speaking personally, I grew up thinking that my sexuality and my masculinity were dangerous and pathological. Before I could put such feelings into words, it was clear to me, given the messaging of the times, that to be a man, was to be bad.
The only hope was for a man to emancipate himself by becoming more like women. Listening more, understanding women’s struggle more and amputating his testosterone urges in favour of reaching out across the gender divide.
The phoney language of gender ecumenism is really just a PR front for a brand of feminism that is itself obsessed with power.
As Nietzsche warned, every revolution carries with it the danger of ‘resentement’ - the process of turning the tables of power, only to replace the old regime with a new one built of former slaves.
That is what we have happening across the western world right now. Women are being bred to be entitled, tyrannical and nasty people, and they are told that behaving in this way is ‘empowered’.
A culture of vain, pathological femininity is dominant. Men are being told that to be good and moral, and to be loved and cherished as men by women, they have to convert themselves from their natural proclivities.
Masculinity is now defined by the most extreme pathological behaviours. To the point that being a man itself is considered something to be cured. A religion of ‘progress' exists around women and femininity, as if to be born with a vagina is to be born a beautiful and perfect madonna.
Like the dangerous sexual sublimation of Catholic priests, men now find themselves in a double bind in expressing their sexuality. Either they express it and risk being branded a ‘creep’ a ‘harasser’ or a threat of such a kind; or they suppress it, dislodge themselves from sexual culture, thus thwarting their own development.
The horrifying irony of this is that the double-bind is far more likely to create ‘toxic’ behaviours than a compassionate and honest cultural examination of the nature of masculinity would do.
Men of all stripes must rebel against this crazed, oestrogen hegemony. It’s time to put these sexual tyrants back in their place. Not through identity politics, but through a shameless sexuality, a shameless expression of male erotic power and a creative and cultural male renaissance.
Let us invent new idols, let us delve deep into the heritage of our mythic heroes and dredge up a new, powerful masculinity that serves to exalt the better angels of our masculine potential.
And let us not listen to the PhD, teacher’s pets and sneering hipsters who would slander our masculine entrenchment as some kind of reversal of equality.
A truly emancipated woman wants to see the men in her life live fulfilling and productive and meaningful stories. She wants them to be reliable and loving, strong and kind.
A truly free and self-empowered woman will not seek to demonise the men in her life, or castrate her male allies. She will take time to understand male sexuality, see the mysteries in it, the hidden powers that it provides for her and her tribe.
For too long the public discourse around gender and sexuality has been dominated by damaged, resentful and angry women, women who exhibit psychological pathologies and who seek to project those wounds onto every nuance and challenge in sexual relationships.
The result is a culture of demands and superior elitist proclamations that bear no relation to ordinary, balanced women, and which alienate young men and teach them to apologise in advance for their sexuality.
Shaming men, even those men who have never abused their sexuality and that of others, for the actions of the fringe extremes, is leading to a deeply repressive sexual culture. It is also going to increase loneliness, isolation and give an extra charge to the rampant nihilism of our age.
All of this because a bunch of over-educated women are ill at ease with their own sexual power. Feminism has taught women that they have no power. No wonder then that when young women intuit their sexual powers they feel rage and shame about not being able to express them.
A whole ruling class of snobby, snotty and entitled princesses - whose chief weapons are in the mainstream media - are taking out their dissociated sexual guilt on men.
It stops here. It’s time for this generation of women to grow up. Men will no longer shoulder responsibility for female unease about sex, or for the fears they have of their own desires.
Time for women to do some deep work on a culture-wide level. Time for women to examine themselves, to look beyond the lies they tell themselves about their own victimhood and powerlessness.
Most men today understand that an acute self-awareness about their own urges and desires is necessary to remain balanced in a civilised world. More than ever, men are cautious and think deeply about their sexualities and physical drives in the context of a free and emancipated culture.
It is time for women to stop glossing over their own problems. It’s time for women to meet us men half-way. The industry of self-congratulation that now passes for feminism is boring, dangerous and it is destroying human relationships.
Until women start to take responsibility for their own sexual anxieties, their own horror at the power and erotic charge of their own desires, feminism will amount to nothing but a corrupt and toxic sham.
Do men still have work to do? Yes, of course. But women have not even begun to examine themselves with the same honesty as men. Instead, we now have a culture of elitist, superior zealots, using shame and rage to deflect from their own sins.
This is a message to all those resentful, boring furies out there, confident in their own righteousness: the game’s up. No progress will be made unless you too get down in the psychic mud and do your own fair share of self-work.
Otherwise, expect a riot. Expect the palace walls to crumble. Expect the ramparts to burn. You’ve been warned.
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